Guest Lists

Guest lists are a drag.

I’ve always known that the guest list would be an issue when I got married. I’ve never wanted a huge wedding, so I didn’t want the list to go much over 100-150 tops. That being said, I LOVE so many people. It’s a little ridiculous if you ask me. I also firmly believe that if you invite someone to your wedding, you should allow them to take a guest with them, and that spikes your guest count.

Let’s think about that for a second. If I want a 100-guest wedding, that means I can only invite about 50 people total and allow them guests. That would barely cover our family and wedding party!

Take my MFA program for example: I was lucky to go to school with incredible people. Not only are they great writers, but they are great humans as well. Seriously, I love so many of these people like a kindergartener loves playtime, but I can’t invite each and every one of them to my wedding. Which stinks. Now, who am I supposed to choose? I don’t like this playing favorites thing the guest list is making me do. If I could have it my way, everyone I love (who isn’t in our immediate families) would just crash my after the meal.

I really want to enjoy my night with my guests, which means, I really don’t want a huge number of people in attendance. I want to be able to chat with everyone briefly. I want to dance with everyone. I want to take pictures with everyone. So that means I need to limit the number of people I invite.

How did you guys manage your invitations? I’m loving the comments I’ve gotten on previous posts on how you planned other aspects of your wedding, so I’d love to hear how you managed your guest list.

Oh, and by the way, I’ve been engaged for one month today. Time does in fact fly by when you are having fun, folks!


  1. nikkiana says:

    It’s nice to be able to let your single friends bring guests, but honestly? You’re under no obligation to do that. That time when I got married I only did +1s for people I knew had a serious significant other. Everyone else just got a solo invite.

  2. B says:

    When I hear about large wedding, I’m just like I don’t even know that many people! But when you add in the +1, it easily adds up. I have no advice but good luck!

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