I’ve been drafting these thoughts about relationships for a week or two now, but I just can’t seem to merge them all into one blog post. The topics are quite varied: what I’ve learned in my own relationship, complaints I hear about people’s significant others, what it takes to make a relationship work, cheating, marriage, etc. So I’ve decided, instead of trying to merge a bunch of thoughts into one post, I’m going to try to compile a mini-series of my “thoughts on love”. Today will be quick and painless:
Thoughts on Love: Lesson #1- Stop Complaining and Start Watering
I didn’t realize how cynical people are about love and relationships until I got into my own serious relationship this year and started paying attention to how much people complain. It seems like everywhere I look, people are whining about their significant others or whining about how much work it is to be in a relationship. They say life is much easier when you’re single. They think the person they are with isn’t who they actually want to be with. No matter what, their opinion is that relationships are hard, and many of them feel like it isn’t worth the work. Everyone is out there comparing their relationships to other people’s relationships, trying to size up what’s “normal” and if they are “happy.”
I’m here to set the record straight once and for all. Life is good. If you can find a good person who you care about that also wants to be with you, then be grateful. It is that simple. Do relationships take work? Of course! Is it hard work? Well, folks… I think that answer is a bit subjective.
Lets consider a plant as an example. You find a plant you really like and bring it home. All it needs to live is sunlight and water, so you put it on a windowsill and you water it every couple days. Tada! Healthy plant! Lets say you bring that plant home, put it on a windowsill and forget to water it for two weeks. The plant wilts and loses some of its beauty. Well, now you have to work twice as hard to pull that plant back to life. It’s possible, it just takes more effort.
So the answer is subjective, like I said before. Relationships are about choices. How much effort are you willing to put in?
Stay tuned for more……