Pregnancy Update: 20 Weeks

IMG_5884.JPGHow far along? 20 weeks pregnant as of today.

Total weight gain: That I know of? 0 pounds. Which is up from the -2 pounds as of the last update. It’s likely that I’m actually +2 at this point, but I’m only weighing myself at my doctor’s office, and I won’t be back until 22 weeks. I actually feel much more confident about the weight gain at this point, because my food intake drastically increased around week 17. Plus, my belly went from almost nonexistent to obviously noticeable, so I’m doing something right.

Maternity clothes?  Still loving my maternity pants. I wear them pretty much every day with my normal clothing for tops. I’m very grateful for this. Wearing my own wardrobe has been such a blessing. I know I’ll need to mix things up a bit when the weather is actually warm, but I’m planning on wearing dresses and flip flops only in the summer.

Stretch Marks? None yet.

Sleep: Sleeping on my side.

Miss Anything? Since the last update? Not too much. I’ve been thinking about some of the foods I can’t eat here and there, but in the grand scheme of things I don’t seriously miss anything (at least this month).

Movement: It happened! I felt the baby move “for real” for the very first time at night on Tuesday, February 24, while we were laying in bed. When I felt it I knew for sure that the baby was moving. I’ll be honest though, before this happened, I’ve been feeling a lot of movement, and I knew that it was probably the baby, but because I have never been pregnant before I didn’t know for sure. Well, that movement convinced me that everything I had been feeling previously was in fact the baby. It was super awesome and I’m now feeling it pretty consistently throughout the day. The baby was dancing away during the ultrasound and it was so incredible to watch, especially since I could feel some of the movements while seeing it.

Food cravings or aversions: I haven’t noticed that I’ve been craving food in the way that I expected to crave food. One thing I have noticed is that when I see a food or think of a food that intrigues me, I suddenly want it. And when I say that I want it, I mean immediately. That doesn’t mean I get it, I just want it. My aversions are a little better. I’m eating a tiny bit of meat, which I’m pleased with. I also went out for breakfast and ate an egg-white omelet, and it was incredible.

Gender: We found out that we are having a girl!

Symptoms: Some lower back pain that seems to come and go, and also one really bad leg cramp. It’s been a real nice month.

Belly button in or out? In still.

Wedding rings on or off? On still.

Mood: I’m still loving the second trimester. This is just the best. If I could feel exactly as I do now, I’d want to be pregnant so many more times.

Looking forward to: Honestly, with the weather we’ve had in Southeastern Mass., all I can think about is the snow. I am so very excited about the spring. I just need to get out of this horrific winter.

Thoughts: I’m halfway through this pregnancy, and I cannot even believe it. I’m so very pleased to be at this point because I felt as if I’d never get there in the beginning of the pregnancy. At the same time, I think pregnancy is so beautiful, so to think that it is already halfway over is also a little sad. I loved the my 20 week ultrasound, and I hope to schedule a 3D ultrasound before the baby is born so I can see her one more time. Everything just feels really great at this point.

Previous updates: 16 weeks

Gender Reveal

The big news is here. On Thursday, February 26, we found out our future baby’s gender. We asked our friends, family, and Facebook friends to share whether they thought we were having a girl or a boy, and girl was the big winner, with about 40+ people saying girl and 32 saying boy.

My guess was boy. Mr O and Wolverine were both guessing girl. Well, now that we know, we’d like to share our happy news with you.

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We’re having a girl!

Currently in February 2015

Screen Shot 2014-07-17 at 1.26.47 PMReading: I read a few books in January. This month I didn’t read any books, but I did read my weekly updates in my baby book, and I’ve done a lot of research reading for work. So in the grand scheme of things, I wish I read a book, but I did read an immense amount.

Listening: I cleaned out my home computer this month and in doing so I jammed out a bunch to iTunes. It was a great time.

Excited: to finally find out the gender of our baby. Yes, I know what we are having, and if you follow me on Facebook, you probably know as well. I just want to announce it in a separate blog post, so you’ll find out soon!

Watching:  Better Call Saul, Blacklist, Walking Dead

Wearing: My normal shirts still and my maternity jeans or normal leggings.

Wishing: For warmer weather and melted snow that doesn’t turn into a 4 inch sheet of ice.

Drinking: hot chocolate, a lot of water, cranberry raspberry juice, and that is about that.

Loving: spending time on Pinterest planning out things for our new baby.

Loathing: The snow. Everything about the snow.

Admiring: My best friend who just had her first baby. The delivery and past month and a half has been a bit of a transition for her little family. They’re all doing wonderful though, and I am so very proud of her.

How did February treat all of you? 

Four Things

I’ve seen this post going around the interwebs. Since my friend Kristen shared hers, I figured I would too!

Four names that people call me other than my real name:

1. Er

2. Er-Dog

3. Annie

4. Mom #2

 Four jobs I’ve had:

1. Benefits Coordinator

2. Psychiatric Case Manager

3. Service Desk Clerk

4. Writer

 Four movies I’ve watched more than once:

1. Elf

2. Finding Nemo

3. Home Videos

4. Pretty Woman

Four books I’d recommend:

1. Drinking: A Love Story – Caroline Knapp

2. Operating Instructions – Anne Lamott

3. Now What? The Creative Writer’s Guide to Success After the MFA

4. In Short: A Collection of Brief Creative Nonfiction

Four places I’ve visited:

1. Aruba

2. Norfolk, VA

3. Seattle, WA

4. North Conway, NH

Four things I prefer not to eat:

1. Nuts

2. Beans

3. zucchini

4. rice pudding

Four of my favorite foods:

1. Lobster

2. Ice Cream

3. Pho

4. Sushi

Four TV shows I watch

1. The Walking Dead

2. Grey’s Anatomy

3. Blacklist

4. Orange is the New Black

Four things I’m looking forward to this year:

1. Having a baby!

2. Warm weather

3. Watching Wolverine with his sibling

4. No more snow (Fingers crossed?)

Four things I’m always saying:

1. “What’s up, Bud?”

2. “How was school today?”

3. “How was work?”

4. “What do you want to eat?”

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Pregnancy Update: 16 weeks

IMG_5721.JPGHow far along? 16 weeks and 3 days

Total weight gain: -2. I’m working on gaining weight in my 2nd trimester. Never did I think this would be a problem I’d have!

Maternity clothes? I love maternity pants. I am so much more comfortable wearing maternity jeans that my old jeans which still fit, but are so tight on the belly.

Stretch Marks? None yet.

Sleep: I’ve been sleeping pretty well overall, but my sleep is much different than it was before I got pregnant. I notice that I wake up more often in the night, and I’m very alert when I wake up (usually to roll over).

Miss Anything? I miss a bunch of stuff like coffee, adult beverages, cold cut sandwiches, oysters, tuna, and any kind of sushi. But to be honest with you, I’ve barely given any of it any thought this entire pregnancy. I thought I’d care much more, but I haven’t noticed missing anything except randomly if it pops in my head.

Movement: I don’t think I’ve had any movement yet. Last week I felt something that could have been a “flutter,” but I haven’t felt it since, so I’m not sure if I truly felt anything or not. The baby moved when my doctor was checking the heartbeat this week, but I couldn’t feel it happen!

Food cravings: I don’t think I have any actual cravings yet. Tomato soup and grilled cheese sandwiches are one of the only lunches I actually enjoy. I’m definitely at the point where I am getting more interested in food. Other food I seem to be enjoying: strawberries, cheese of any kind, homemade pickles, green juice.

Aversions: Oh, yes. This entire pregnancy so far has been about aversions. Up until about a week or two ago, meat was my arch enemy. I didn’t like thinking about it, looking at it, smelling it, and I certainly wasn’t interested in eating it. This was horrible. I’m a big meat eater, and I don’t enjoy being grossed out by a food I usually love. I’ve been trying really hard to eat a little bit of meat if I can. I’m also grossed out by eggs, which is another one of my favorite foods.

Gender: We will find out in about three weeks. I 100% truly do not care whether this baby is a boy or girl. Growing up, I always wanted a little boy first, as I had two older brothers, and that was my “normal.” I’m so fortunate to have Wolverine as a stepson, so I no longer need to worry about having a boy first. I’ve got one. All three of us would be happy with any gender baby, and we’re just looking forward to finding out.

Symptoms: Headaches that last all week, round ligament pain, and occasional uncomfortable feeling near my coccyx (bottom of my spine near my butt).

Belly button in or out? In still.

Wedding rings on or off? On still.

Mood: I truly didn’t feel hormonal at all in the first trimester. I’m starting to feel it here and there now. Nothing with consistency, but I might find myself a bit weepy while watching a commercial, and I definitely have a lot to say to other drivers (hint: it’s usually not nice). I’m convinced this baby will come out with road rage. That’s really the only time I find myself feeling hormonal.

Looking forward to: Everything about pregnancy. I want my belly to get bigger and my baby to grow. I’m excited to find out the baby’s gender. I find it completely amazing that I’m growing a human inside of me, and I just want to enjoy the entire pregnancy experience.

Thoughts: Now that I’m out of the first trimester, I feel like I’m kind of on a pregnancy-high. Besides the occasional discomfort, I’m currently really loving pregnancy. It’s not that I didn’t love pregnancy in the first trimester, it’s simply that I felt like crap. Plus, I was so worried about growing the baby. I just wanted to get past the miscarriage stage. I also wanted to feel more human again. I felt like I’d never be 16 weeks pregnant, and here I am. Actually, I’m nearing 17 weeks by the time this posts. I just feel so blessed to be here. Also, if you want me to be honest, I adore my belly. The picture that goes with this post isn’t even a great one, but I just love to look at that belly growing.

The Big News

I’m so grateful for participating in NaBloPoMo during November 2014. You see, I’ve been keeping a secret from you. A secret that I’ve known since November 13, 2014. A secret that stunted me from writing so much, because I was simply sure I would tell you the truth before we were ready. NaBloPoMo kept me writing through the early days in the secret, and as you can tell from the following two months, my secret has silenced me.

It isn’t that I don’t want to write to you. I do. I’ve simply been unsure of what to share. But now I’m ready to tell you the big news with Wolverine’s help.photo copy.

We’re going to have a baby!

We are all so very excited to welcome a baby this coming July. Telling everyone has been an absolute joy, and I’m so grateful not to keep any more secrets from you all or anyone else! Be prepared for an extreme increase in blog posting from little ol’ me, because I have a lot of catching up to do!

Currently in December

Reading: Writing Down the Bones by Natalie Goldberg (yet again).

Listening: I’m still hooked on podcasts. I cannot believe that the first season of Serial just ended.

Excited: for the holiday season.

Watching: Forensic Files. I love this show. I just watched all of the episodes on Netflix, and I found out there are so many more on Amazon Prime. Yahoo.

Wearing: Anything to keep me warm. I am cold all of the time.

Wishing: Loga, our Elf on the Shelft could stay year round.

Drinking: Still mostly just water with lemon. Usually alternate with some cranberry grape juice to mix things up a bit.

Loving: Spending time with my friends. I just had a nice girls brunch last week.

Loathing: last minute errands and holiday gifts I still haven’t purchased. I start shopping very early every year as I have a ton of birthdays to buy for on top of Christmas presents. I was about 75% done with my shopping in the beginning of November, and then everything stalled!

Admiring: my new Christmas tree.

 

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Reverb Days 4-11

reverb14 is a prompt-a-day series for the month of December designed to reflect on 2014 and project on hopes and dreams for 2015.  Through December 31st Meredith, Kat and Sarah will post each day with a new prompt. I’m doing it too, though as you can tell I usually post in a cluster versus daily. Join us by writing, or join us by reading.  Follow on Twitter @project_reverb and hashtag #reverb14.  Let’s reverb.

 

December 4, 2014
Do Over | Hindsight is the one thing we never benefit from in the present.  Is there one moment you wish that you could do-over?

My wedding day – 100%. I only say that because it was everything that I wanted it to be and more. I wish I could relive it again. The only part hindsight could play in my wedding was that I wish I talked to every single guest. How I didn’t manage to, I’m not really sure, but I know that I didn’t. Everything was such a blur, even if it all was a wonderful blur. I loved everything about my wedding, and it seems so unfortunate that it’s over now.

 

December 5, 2014
Letting go | For next year, I’m letting go of…

Gosh, I’m not sure. I think the only possible thing I could think of was to be more productive during the work day so that I work less at home. I’m not required to do any work on non-work time, which is why it’s really nothing to complain about. I just find myself spending a lot of time at home looking over my work. I want to be more present with my family, so I’m going to let go of the constant need to work in the new year.

 

December 6, 2014
Money | Where did you spend your money this year?  Did you save it instead?  What, if anything, would you like to do with your finances this year?

This year I paid off my student loans. I still can’t believe I no longer owe money for my BA or MFA to the government, but I don’t! It was a big decision that I don’t even know if I was ready to make at the time, but I’m forever grateful that my loans are gone, and I don’t have to worry about paying them anymore. Now to focus on saving for a house and other future goals.

 

December 7, 2014
Victory Laps | What was your biggest accomplishment this year?

Maintaining sanity while still being easy-going about things. I planned a wedding in 8 months, six of which were in 2014, and switched careers about three weeks before my wedding. Needless to say, that could have been an immensely stressful situation for me, but I just kept focusing on the tasks at hand and not worrying too much about the big picture. I knew my main goal was to be married at the end of the day and accepted that whatever happened until then wouldn’t change that I’d soon be Mrs. O. This was a great attitude to have as it kept me really relaxed.

 

December 8, 2014
Hero | Who was your hero this year? Tell us why. What makes a hero in your eyes?

I think heroes can come in various shapes, sizes, and molds. There is no one thing that makes a hero in my eyes. A hero could have a million traits that I admire. I think for 2014, I’ll have to say that my husband is my hero. He’s stepped out of his comfort zone, and embraced many changes. He is always willing to split all of our responsibilities, and in fact he always goes a step beyond. I’m very lucky to have him in my life.

 

December 9, 2014
The Plank | It has been said that you must learn to take care of yourself before you can be effective at taking care of others.  How did you take care of yourself in 2014?  How will you take care of yourself in 2015?

I think I learned a lot this year about taking care of myself, and I’d really like to keep the habits going into the new year. I integrated walking more regularly into my life. I hope that in 2015 it will become a regular habit versus a more random, binge habit.

 

December 10, 2014
Leap of faith | What decision did you make this year that was a leap of faith?  Did it work out?  Or not?

Changing careers was my biggest leap of faith in 2014. While I didn’t plan on making a career in human resources, it was certainly easy for me to stay in the profession. I have twelve years of it under my belt, and I am ver grateful for all that I learned during my time in HR. Writing was always my main goal, and it’s wonderful to work in the industry now, but it was a big ol’ leap for me. Things are working out pretty well, and I’m glad I made the decision to change jobs, even if it was just a few weeks before my wedding.

 

December 11, 2014
Small Pleasures | What small pleasures did you discover this year?

I wouldn’t say that I discovered pho this year (that was in 2011 for me) but I definitely discovered that not having it as a regular meal in my life makes me sad. Mr. O and I were fortunate to live near an excellent restaurant that made great pho. The lady who owned it was a sweetheart, but after so many years of owning the place, she sold it. The new owners (while armed with her recipes) didn’t make food that was as good and as of right now, it is temporarily closed. So I went a few months without pho, and I didn’t like it. The good news is that there is a great place down the street from my work, so I’m back to my pho habit.

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Reverb 2014 Days 1-3

December 1, 2014
At the start | Where did you start 2014? Give us some background on this year. 

2014 was a beautiful year for me. Probably the best of my entire life. I started it engaged to the man I love, and cheered in the new year playing board games, video games, and watching the ball drop with him and Mr. O. It was my last year with a real Christmas tree (we have unfortunately bought an artificial tree this year) and it was still up. My nephew was just turning six, and a niece was just turning one. It was cold in Massachusetts, and I was already ready for the spring. I was working at my previous job, and we were getting ready for our big benefit fairs. The O family was planning on a ski trip at the end of January. It was a great start to the year.

 

December 2, 2014
Gorgeous | When did you feel beautiful this year? Why?

This is an easy one for me. I kind of feel like I’m cheating with this answer, but I felt most beautiful at my wedding. It wasn’t about the hair or the makeup or the dress or the veil. It was just that I was so happy, and so shockingly easy going about the whole day, and I felt so wonderful. I really loved committing myself to Mr. O in front of all of our family and friends. That all being said, having the opportunity to now look back on the photographs we have, I also looked beautiful. It was better than anything I could have imagined for my wedding day.

December 3, 2014
Coulda Woulda Shoulda | What didn’t you do this year because you were too scared, afraid, unsure? Are you going to do it next year? Or maybe you don’t want to anymore?
I don’t want to cop out on this one, but I’m not sure I would have done anything differently in 2014. Pretty huge things happened for me this year. I planned a wedding, changed careers, got married, honeymooned, and turned 30! All of the risks I took were worth it, and in the long run, I think I was really brave this year. The only things I can reminisce on are tiny, minute details that really don’t matter in the long run. There were a few wedding projects I scrapped last minute because I was running out of time, and I didn’t want to be stressed by another project. If I had more time, maybe I would have finished them. I also could have kept a little more up-to-date with my Project Life scrapbooking. But like I said, none of these matter in the grand scheme of life.

Rainy Days Make Me Tired

This is nothing new, but I just needed to share about how much rainy days makes me tired. This morning, I wanted nothing more than to stay in bed, under the covers, completely ignoring my alarm and the need to get up and get ready for work. I actually did sleep later than I should have this morning, but I got up with enough time to get ready for the day.

It’s raining in my are. It’s not just a little rain either, it is raining on and off all day long. Sometimes heavy, sometimes light, but it is consistent. It’s gloomy too. The sky is gray. The air is cold and windy.

All day long I’ve been so sluggish and tired. I’m lucky that I still got a lot of work done, but man, I would have loved a nap. Rainy days make me tired. I try not to complain about the rain, especially in the winter. I much prefer rain to snow, but I could really use a bright, warm sunny day.

I know that many of you are feeling the same way. I’ve read the same sentiments on Facebook and Twitter so many times today. I remember when I was a little younger, I adored rainy days when I had a day off of work and no responsibilities. I’d lay in bed all day and read a book or watch movies. It was the best.

Now, all rainy make me tired.

Sleeping In Hotels

This weekend we went on a mini family vacation to Springfield, Massachusetts. We went to the Basketball Hall of Fame, ate at a few restaurants, and visited the waterpark at the hotel we stayed at. It was a nice mini-vacation that we didn’t need to drive very far for, or take time off of work or school to go to. Our hotel was okay. We’ve been very Hampton/Hilton brand-loyal for a while now, only straying when there isn’t a property near where we are staying. This time we didn’t stay at a Hampton or Hilton. Part of the reason was because we wanted Wolverine to have fun with waterslides or at least a great pool.

This isn’t going to be a hotel review, but here are my basic thoughts: The reception area was beautiful. The hallways were cold. The hotel room was small, much smaller than we are used to, but comfortable enough. The room looked nice, but it really appeared as if the “renovation” was just covering over poor conditions of the old room, not a proper renovation. The waterslide are seemed great. My only issue was that we all had to pay for entry. All in all, it was a safe, clean night away from home. I can’t complain abut that.

I didn’t get much sleep. Isn’t sleeping in hotels the strangest experience? In a really great hotel, rooms are pretty soundproof, and generally you can’t hear too much of your surroundings. I don’t know why, but I feel like most of the hotels we’ve stayed at this year we’ve been able to hear guests in neighboring rooms, guests in the hallways, doors slamming shut, conversations through bathroom vents. This experience was somewhat similar. The entire hotel was smoke-free, but after the bathroom got steamy from showers, it smelled mildly of cigarettes. The door slamming from the hallways was so very loud. At one point in the middle of the night I heard two gentlemen in the hallway having a conversation about wearing condoms and how important it was to not catch anything. We also had double beds, and while I am a serious cuddler, I felt as if I couldn’t turn over without waking up Mr. O.

Sleeping in hotels is either one of the greatest experiences or one of the weirdest ones.

Tonight I’ll be happy to sleep in my very own bed and roll around as much as I please without having to worry about walking up Mr. O, slamming doors, cigarette smell, or men chatting about prophylactics outside my door.

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My Favorite TV Shows

Ever wonder what your blogger friends are watching on TV? On occasion I’ll mention my favorite TV shows  during my monthly “Currently” series, but I don’t think I’ve ever listed all of them. So here goes in no particular order.

Grey's Anatomy via TVguide.com

Grey’s Anatomy via TVguide.com

via NBC.com

Blacklist via NBC.com

via AMC.com

Hell on Wheels via AMCtv.com

Walking Dead via AMCtv.com

Walking Dead via AMCtv.com

Cutthroat Kitchen via The Food Network

Cutthroat Kitchen via The Food Network

Forensic Files via ForensicFiles.com

Forensic Files via ForensicFiles.com

Louie via Screenrant

Louie via Screenrant

Jeopardy via jeopardy.com

Jeopardy via jeopardy.com

Wheel of Fortune via Huffingtonpost.com

Wheel of Fortune via Huffingtonpost.com

Orange Is the New Black via Netflix

Orange Is the New Black via Netflix

House of Cards via Netflix

House of Cards via Netflix

Six-Month Wedding Picture Grace Period

Is there a grace period for having your wedding picture as your profile picture on Facebook?

Tonight, a colleague of mine mentioned in a post that it makes him sad when he sees women in their wedding gowns past the “six-month grace period.” I had never heard of this. Have  you?

I got my wedding photos about two months after my wedding. I thought that was remarkably fast seeing how long it took some of my friends to get their photos back. If you’d like me to be honest with you, I’m not even sure I’ve seen all of my wedding pictures. There are just so many of them. If you’re looking for an incredible wedding photographer in the Southeastern Massachusetts/Rhode Island area, you definitely want to book with Brittany Adams Photography. I loved working with her, and can give her the highest recommendation. Here is her blog roundup of my wedding. It’s incredible.

But back to Facebook. Is there an expiration date on how long you can keep your wedding photos up? If you’d like me to be honest with you, I planned on keeping my wedding photos online forever. Well, maybe not forever, but certainly for a long time. Am I narcissistic or is this normal?

After the conversation though, I really thought about it. How long is too long to have wedding pictures up. Will I really have me and Mr. O as a profile picture three years from now? Should I put up “normal” pictures of us after we’ve been married for six months? a year? Who makes this timeline, and where can I find out more information about it?

What do you think?  I’m really interested in hearing everyone’s thoughts.